So often our dogs' behavior contradicts our human intuition, as in the following very common predicament: "Poor Rover is afraid of __________ [fill in the blank: thunder, the vacuum cleaner, strangers, …]. At first he just seemed a little worried, but the more we've try to comfort him, the more fearful he's become. What on earth is going on?"
As loving caretakers, our first impulse is to soothe and console our dogs when they act afraid: “it’s ok – it won’t hurt you”. Unfortunately, your dog doesn’t understand the words of explanation, all he knows is that when he acts scared, people pet him and speak kindly. That’s how you praise his other good behaviors…so to his doggy mind the logical conclusion is that you are praising him for acting scared. He obliges you by acting (and feeling) even more frightened the next time.
Uh oh, how do we get off this track?
The best things to do when your dog acts frightened or worried about anything are:
1. Set an example of cheerful confidence.
- You may say something in an upbeat tone of voice: “wow, what a great storm!” or “hey, there’s a cool person over there!”
- If your dog is frightened of an object, and you can get close enough without forcing your dog, it may help for you to confidently touch and speak to the object (I once patted and conversed with a parked bulldozer - luckily there were no human witnesses!)
- Do not force your dog to approach the object or person.
- Do not allow a stranger to approach if your dog is frightened. Explain that your dog needs some space right now.
2. Ignore frightened behavior and watch for any curious or confident behavior that you can reward.
- By watching his body posture, ear and tail position, and the skin around his mouth and eyes in many different situations (fun as well as scary), you will learn to judge his attitude with precision.
- Do not pat or stroke your dog when he is acting worried – there is a better way to distract him: see #3 below.
3. If possible, take his mind off the Scary Thing by asking him to focus on you and perform a trained behavior that is very easy (I like to teach finger-targeting for this).
- If he is too scared to perform, get him further from the scary thing if possible.
- Reward each performance of the behavior with a treat if he will take it. If he won't take the treat, try getting further from the scary thing and gradually working toward it.
- You can give a double reward for taking a step toward a scary thing by tossing the treat away from the scary thing. He gets the treat, plus he gets to go further away. This will make him more willing to move toward it again.
In my next post I will share some specific information about thunderstorm/fireworks phobia.